Ways of Resistance

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Life Without the Charismatic Celebrity II: Another Story

I received a very heartfelt and sincere question/comment on my last post. As I wrote back in the comments section, I started to see that what I wanted to say likely wasn’t going to fit for a “normal” comment. Also, it occurred to me that our exchange could turn into something (as the commenter noted below) useful for another blog post about the subject. So, introductions aside, here is what Another Jason (the commenter) wrote, along with my reply below that:

Hey Jason, This is a very interesting post. I’m especially interested in your own personal experiences:

“this is a subject that I take kind of seriously because of the spiritual abuse/manipulation that I’ve experienced at the hands of power-hungry leaders.”

I’ve experienced what I’d estimate as a fairly heavy dose of spiritual abuse. It’s really hurt my spiritual drive, confidence in leadership (that is, both confidence in myself as a leader and confidence in my leaders), and my involvement — tangibly and emotionally– with my community. I love God deeply, but I feel somewhat crippled in these areas. After nearly 14 years, it’s still hard to move forward and be unhindered by these events.

Maybe this is for another post some time in the future — if you so choose — but I am very interested in your experiences and what you’ve done to cope and/or break free from the shackles of your own experiences relating to spiritual abuse.

Hi Another Jason,

Good to know there’s someone else out there donning our name with grace!

Most of what I meant above about “spiritual abuse” had to do with well-intentioned individuals and leaders (both in a local and national settings) who either implied or outright stated that whatever I was doing as a Christian was not enough–that I did not count until I was powerful and famous. They sometimes suggested I was missing “my blessing” or that I didn’t have enough “faith” or that there was “sin” in my life (those being the most common examples of statements pointing toward a particular deficit the culture was either promoting or fixing). Sometimes, however, I think the positive statements were the more damaging ones to my faith in Jesus. I was told to expect “great things,” “anointing,” “popularity,” “influence,” etc. and never given a framework (except for our USAmerican default, consumerism) to interpret this message. I now think the folks who administered these “gifts” were also building an empire (i.e., ministries) at the expense of naive and gullible people.

One time in particular I remember attempting to reach for “my calling” by getting as close as possible to a Famous Worship Leader (FWL) while attending his worship conference in Tennessee (it wasn’t actually his conference, but he was the headlining act, so same thing, right?). Anyway, without any thought about my own integrity or the consequences, I deceived the conference director about a “difficult situation” that really needed a remedy, hoping it would persuade him to introduce me to the FWL and perhaps convince both of them of my “gifting.” Quite easily, he saw right through my lie (as well as generously offered to help me out by giving me his own money) but wouldn’t allow me to access the superstar. I was completely humiliated and ashamed of my intentions. The hours after that conversation were spent in an empty hotel room by myself, filled with doubt, confusion, and fear. I was ashamed to even be seen.

Years later, I can see why I believed it would be necessary for me to see him and become his friend. I thought my identity would be secured within his “popularity” and “influence.” I thought it was necessary for me to become more than I already was. I didn’t perceive myself as someone deserving of much of anything. The Charismatic System I was a part of, though well-intentioned, created certain “celebrity” expectations for myself and others–which were carried out through celebrity music, books, conferences, personalities, programs, etc.–and were marketed/sold as a consumerist identity to well-behaving Christians seven days a week.

My freedom eventually came in the guise of obscurity and “ordinary” friendship. Given my propensity to hype, I didn’t have the time or energy for more spectacular events, singing, and prophecies. I just wanted to believe again. And this faith finally found me as I crawled my way toward a downwardly mobile and small (what some would call “insignificant”) local community. Every time I got too proud, they reeled me in and graciously offered me something better than fame and popularity: a radical friendship rooted in truth and the way of Jesus.

Anyway, that’s my story. What yours?

For all of us sojourners on the way, how has wisdom and friendship been able to find you in spite of the weariness and shame of “spiritual abuse”?

Life Without the Charismatic Celebrity

I thought you might be interested to read about the latest shenanigans taking place among our favorite charismatic “soap opera” celebrities. Actually, all silliness aside, this is a subject that I take kind of seriously because of the spiritual abuse/manipulation that I’ve experienced at the hands of power-hungry leaders. Not to mention the sad fact that I eventually learned to give my own form of manipulative “ministry time” along the way. I’m still repenting…

So, this might be a bit depressing…and yet, as sad as I am, it motivates me to seek the ordinary/reject the theology and apostolic “covering” which produces this kind of mess and toxicity. I don’t want to see any more harm…least of all coming from those of us who profess to be followers in His name. My prayer: Lord, have mercy on us sinners.

Apostolic Bullshit

Apostolic Bullshit II

Apostolic Bullshit III

Cross-Gender Friendships [Revisited]

I’m on the Emergent Village (EV) email list. That means that I receive their latest blog posts in my inbox. Today, I was sent this blog post. It has to do with cross-gender friendships (cgf). Some of you may know I have blogged about this in the past. In fact, I referenced the person (Dan Brennan) who wrote this particular EV blog entry in my earlier discussion about cgf.

Ways of Resistance (at least so far) hasn’t been commented on very much and yet the post about cgf was the most popular in that sense (especially if I include private emails I received and “secret” conversations from people who didn’t want their views made public). I understand that this is a touchy subject. For some of my friends, it’s like a clearly visible (yet unavoidable) land mine–perhaps there is little good involved in it. Even still, I haven’t been able to resist the language I find in the gospel tradition about family and friendship, even intimacy among members in a community (male and female). Anyway, make of it what you will. I’m still thinking. What kinds of questions come up for you?

P.S. David Fitch has written about this topic recently

Last week I posted an introduction to a new series I plan to write about what Jesus’ church should look like in light of our present context (Post-Christendom). Today, I came across a blog post by Mr. David Fitch (an excellent blogger and missional practitioner who makes me think), which seems to parallel many of my own concerns, thoughts, and questions. I would definitely recommend, in addition to our interaction here, joining his conversation as it unfolds. The post is titled, “When They Will Not Come.”

The Look of My Church (Jesus Wants His Church Back!) [Part 1]

I wrote this email (below) to my wife, Julissa, asking her pass it on to our friends in Naked Faith (our little faith community that’s part of the Vineyard). Now, as I read it, it seems like a good way to start off a series I’ve been thinking about writing for the blog. It all started with Tim (my good friend and a pastor at the Vineyard). He asked me what I think the ideal church service would look like. Right away I told him that the answer could take me hours to explain (a bit of an overstatement…but not by much!). So, over the next few weeks, it is my new mission to blog about what Jesus’ church currently is (in all her beautiful mess and life-giving) and how she needs to change (for the sake of the world and God’s mission).

Part of this series will be answering Tim’s question (i.e., describing how the ideal “church” service would look like), though I think it will become obvious from what I write and reference (just look below) that I think church should be defined in much broader, more holistic terms–closer to “peoplehood and life” as opposed to “building and event.” On that point, I know Tim would agree with me.

Here’s the email I wrote to my friends in Naked Faith (see Emergent Village and/or Kathy Escobar for the blogpost I reference):


Julissa,

Can you forward this to Naked Faith (including Sergio)? It reminded me of what Sergio said about the difference between a bureaucratic food stamp program and a personal invitation to share a meal with someone. Hopefully, by reading this and continuing our thoughts, all of us will be encouraged/inspired/empowered in our efforts to act and think differently with those we know/meet.

Jason

What should Jesus’ church embody? Who’s included/excluded in our Jesus-ey mix of saviors and misfits? How do we become the kind of people that are learning to love unconditionally?

Have We Domesticated Jesus?

I met Orrin during a visit to Missio Dei (a new monastic community in Minneapolis, MN) back in May. I also met the leader of Missio Dei, Mark Van Steenwyk, while there. In addition to being their “pastor,” he’s also the editor/founder of a webzine called Jesus Manifesto. Several months ago, Mark wrote about his friend Orrin in an article titled, “Buddhist Follower of Jesus?” It’s definitely a worthwhile read, asking important questions.

In the article (and in some of the comments below it—especially the ones by Rick Slone, joseph of antioch, and markvans), I suspect you’ll find some inspiring thoughts, questions, and ideas. My reflections here have to do with what Mark said. His thoughts on the subject have been sitting with me for a while now and I’m hoping this conversation will be a springboard into even better thinking. So, I’ll get right to it.

The inherent belief system (i.e., where we put our faith and confidence) within many Evangelical communities takes for granted certain modern USAmerican philosophical and economic assumptions. They are not neutral; they are the water we swim in. And they are not—without much qualification and selectivity—uniquely (or even easily) “Christian.” So, I ask:

How do we justify our accommodations (as professed followers of Jesus) to late 20th century conservative/liberal politics, modernist philosophical assumptions, and industrialized economies while, at the same time, invariably condemning the accommodations made to other faith traditions, cultures, and religions?

This bait-and-switch comes in the form of a very insidious (and culturally comfortable) lack of theological imagination. On the one hand, our notions about “non-Christians” have supposed that God could not possibly be at work in, among, or through folks who believe differently than “us.” They are unregenerated, unsaved, and unable to escape the worldly clutches of Total Depravity. Christians, on the other hand, are totally “forgiven” (an abstract legal agreement between God and those who truly believe) and unconditionally “saved” (the promise of a four-star hotel room after graduating from our bodies and the rest of this filthy world). We seem to have lost the ability to accurately and beautifully imagine the Jesus Story in ways that transcend or, better put, subvert imperial assumptions (i.e., the narratives which oppress and do harm to creation).

Under the impact of such framing stories, God’s dreams for the world get reduced to pre-packaged, unearthly, and, ultimately, inoffensive religious technologies for salvation and impersonal doctrines or ideas about Truth. The very telling (and unfortunate) result is that Christians in the West have been unsuccessful in providing an alternative to the life-sucking bad theologies and exploitive economies rampant among the “secular” as well as those who call themselves religious. This should cause us who seek to be faithful in our context more than a few seconds to pause and think.

The Jesus Story is so much more than consumerism or business-as-usual. The imago dei, resting on all of us, propels each human-alive into generative relationship with creation and Creator. It convinces us of our God-created goodness, loveable-ness, and moral lucidity even before we think about how terribly we’ve messed up the story (i.e., sinned). In Jesus’ outline, enemy-love becomes the true mark of an apprentice and hope-for-creation gives shape to our history and God’s future. So, before making uninformed or ignorant remarks about other religions or the non-faith of “unbelievers,” perhaps we should rethink our understanding of Jesus and his message. Indeed, once our understanding of The Message changes, so do our ways-of-being-in-the-world and, ultimately, everything that we have imagined. Fortunately for us, the world’s future is not defined by the grim scowls and calculated formulas of modernist “evangelistic strategies.” And, in spite of our many unholy alliances with Caesar, we—the visible church—are still an integral part of the most radical and prophetic story ever believed/lived.

Goin’ Green for Good?

 

While playing cards the other day with a very pregnant friend of mine, she mentioned that one of her best friends has decided to use cloth diapers with her newly born son. “I thought you might like to hear that,” she says, “It’s very organic.”

Here is a rundown of what goes through my head when my unsuspecting friends make comments like that. The last thing I think we need are more “green” products (though I love the idea of using cloth diapers-it was a good practice for my mom when I was a kid and it is a good practice now). These “new” green labels–mass-produced and stamped on our favorite toys–are not necessary, and in my view, miss the point completely. They get indiscriminately applied to almost any product as a way for national or international corporations to up the “market share.” This leaves gluttonous and lazy American consumers with the environmental equivalent of “atonement” (while at the same time enticing them with otherworldly suburban rewards). Do you want comfort and convenience? A three-car garage to house both your hybrid SUVs? The net result is: the elite who can afford to pay extra for the “guilt-free” label consume more and more, while the rest of the world barely survives. Obviously, this is a problem.

Mere consumption (i.e., having to purchase everything needed in order to get by) is the antithesis of ecological, economic, and community health. The name of the game in most “civilized” countries is to mass-produce specialized, throw-away items made with poor quality. Under this system, buying yet another product (green or otherwise) for the sake of conservation is, ultimately, disingenuous. So we find ourselves trapped and easily influenced by the superstitions and ideologies of Limitless Growth and Market Share. When we leave these economies of greed intact and fail to imagine (or, better yet, re-member) our local economies the cost is greater than the industrial accountants can actually assess. We lose our mutual trust, creativity, and interdependence–nothing less than true freedom. We lose our community in favor of corporate interest. And isn’t endless consumption the cliched byline of the “free market” (what an oxymoron!) anyway?

Maybe I’m missing the point, but could it be that all our “green” packaging more resembles the plastic commitments of horny teenagers “in love” than actual sustainable ecology? Let’s not buy another needless product, especially if in doing so we believe our responsibility is finished.

Shane Claiborne, an activist and founding member of The Simple Way community, described the challenge this way: “We wrestle to free ourselves from macro-charity and distant acts of charity that serve to legitimize apathetic lifestyles of good intentions but rob us of the gift of community” (The Irresistible Revolution). The answer isn’t merely to “stop consuming so much,” it is an invitation to work for ourselves; that is, an invitation to become creative producers in community. Make something, for Chrissakes! It’s fun!

p.s. My wife is pregnant!!! She’s almost five months along. And for those who are wondering we will be using those infamous cloth diapers. ;-)

Speaking About Multiculturalism

Editors note: This was originally posted at Relevant Magazine (online version). I’m posting it here so that I can buy myself some blog reader time to finish a new piece that I intend to post within the next week or so. Plus, some of you might not have read this earlier one. Enjoy.

Movements have a funny way of losing authenticity and believable grammar when their language is co-opted by abstraction, like when a Christian movement professes to love God and either hates or ignores their neighbor. Wendell Berry writes, “People in movements too readily learn to deny to others the rights and privileges they demand for themselves.” As a child during the ‘80s, I watched (unaware) the multiculturalism movement gain momentum in public education. Sometimes I wonder what life would have been like without the culturally in-forming “Ad Council” broadcasts and public service announcements from my youth, reminding me and my classmates that hate language and discrimination are both wrong and morally passé. Imagine my shock when I began to hate, and further, when I began to feel hated. Didn’t I grow up in a “tolerant” society with “evolved” speech that didn’t allow for racism or ethnocentrism of any kind? Turns out movements, even really good ones, fail sometimes.

I can remember attending a church picnic around the spring of 1987. Collections of families and organized groups commonly gathered at Caldwell Park in Redding, Calf., to spend the afternoon. Around tables and barbeques, mostly grilling hotdogs and spooning potato salad, people seemed to experience life in its fullest.

I spent most of my childhood among white children, their parents and their families. Nevertheless, ingrained in me was this unspoken assumption that ethnic minorities never ventured out of their houses or into our parks (terrible, I know!). This day in the park was different for two reasons. First, I noticed a large Hispanic family eating together and enjoying each other’s company at a table nearby ours. Second, the boys I normally hung out with at these events had invited along a kid I had never met, a gregarious dark-skinned boy.

It’s no wonder, as I walked among the picnics with my buddies, that I was intimidated by this new acquaintance from an unknown background. I’m sure some of my family’s distrustful stories about Mexicans, shaped around Texas border controversies, helped to unwittingly form my own thoughts about Hispanics and dark-skinned individuals in general. The truth is, my conservative neighborhood and family had economic as well as political motivations to scare me away from minorities. I heard stories that left me feeling vulnerable and insecure as a kid.

When my friends paid more attention to this new guy than me, I became jealous and full of insecurity. Perhaps I thought to myself, “This is just what I expected!”

The large Hispanic family, speaking a chorus of syllables and notes I didn’t understand, mingled with each other as they stood holding food. Their children chased each other through the maze of adult appendages, laughing and tagging the shoulder or waist in front of them. Perhaps they were unaware of us, much like we were unaware of them. That quickly changed. As soon as the thought came to me, I made use of the opportunity to be “funny.” I pointed to the Hispanic table and said to our new dark-skinned acquaintance, “Hey, why don’t you go hang out with your family!” This nameless and placeless boy, along with my friends, looked at me with disgust.

I responded tentatively by blaming his ambiguous racial makeup, “What are you anyway?” Maybe I knew when I said it that he had every right to fire back what he wanted to say and eventually did say. Maybe it had already sunk in, the guilt and failure that revealed a festering wound (hidden no more). Coldly and more justified than I, he spoke from his injury, “What are you? Retarded!?!”

I wouldn’t have thought of myself as rude or, especially not, as racist. Most white Americans growing up during these last 40 years have been exposed to such a huge quantity of civil rights language and metaphors I am sure we know it like the back of our hand. Still, I sometimes wonder if it means anything to us besides our abstract value for “diversity.”

What was left for me to say? There could be no excuse for what I did. We were left frozen by the knowledge that Racism had reached into our boyhood and pulled out hateful ugliness. I wish I could say that I learned from this experience, that I never repeated those words (or similar ones) again. I wish I could say the wound I inflicted on myself and those around me (particularly the boy) has healed without any scarring. I’m afraid the void I cast that day on the Hispanic family at the park and this new acquaintance of mine has come back to haunt me time and time again. The only way I see this dreadful abstraction finally taking shape, becoming fully human, is by re-membering our stories and the healing language of actual lives in place.


A movement, much like mystery, can too easily become reductionistic, routine and average (especially the larger it gets). The best movements I have been a part of have been ones that challenge me to rethink everything, even the thoughts I have about their particular causes. Though I’m not convinced multiculturalism as a movement goes far enough in the way of meaning what they say, I am grateful for being invited into a conversation that (when their language is authentic) means responsibility and justice for the weak. The world, I think, is ready for this kind of thing. We are looking for some new possibilities, a re-imagined conversation about race and fear. Whatever it is that emerges, perhaps it’s time to declare myself an “unofficial” member.

FYI–you can read me over at Jesus Manifesto

Jesus Manifesto is a webzine that caught my attention last year. They describe themselves like this:

The Jesus Manifesto is a clearinghouse for propaganda meant to frustrate and disrupt quaint notions of Jesus (and the even quainter notions of the religion he founded). You see, we’re convinced that what passes for Christianity in our culture has very little resemblance to the radical (and indeed political) movement Jesus started on the fringes of the Empire roughly two-thousand years ago. Most of the ways in which we’ve been taught to think about our faith get in the way of following Jesus. Some of the categories we’ve inherited—at least the ones I’ve inherited—are simply inadequate. And so, it is easy to follow our Christian convictions while being at odds with Christ.

But beyond disruption and subversion, we want to proclaim something much deeper–hope. You can only challenge things for so long before you need to help create the alternative. Ultimately, this is what the Jesus Manifesto is all about. We want to captivate you with a kingdom vision and explore what it would look like to make that a tangible reality.

I’ve gotten a couple of my articles posted with them (and I’m pretty excited about it!). The latest one they posted for me is titled “Radical Dissent: Poetry by Wendell Berry and the Mad Farmer.” You can read it here. A few months ago I also submitted an article titled “Another Song About Me?” and you can read that one here.

!Viva La Revolución! ;-)

Making Sense of the “Prophetic”

For a post-charismatic critique of prophetic ministry (and as a follow up to my last post), read Those Prophetic Words (by Cynthia once again) and A Prophetic Word for 2008 (by Kingdom Grace, which Cynthia wrote about and linked to in her post). I’m hoping we can talk openly about our doubts, visions, prophecies, set-backs, and perhaps even new thinking. Maybe one of these days I’ll write some of my own thoughts about how I see the prophecies I’ve been given and how the “prophetic” might interact within/through emerging missional communities.

One quick observation, though, about the prophetic. For those of us who know something about postmodern counseling theories (or for those of us who may have considered the question I am asking below), isn’t Narrative Therapy in general and Reflecting Teams in particular another version of what we Charismatic Christians might call “prophecy”? It’s always struck me that my Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) colleagues, who would not identify as Christian, have often “ministered prophetically” (apparently without asking for the Holy Spirit or calling it “prophetic ministry”) by effectively using the postmodern theories linked to above. The reverse has also been true: prophetic people seem to be helping individuals/communities to re-story their lives, resisting “oppressive” narratives in light of the “the Lord’s word for them.”

Those are the similarities, I’m sure someone could find more differences. Yet, I’m tempted to ask: Why is it that my non-religious MFT colleagues seem to be just as inspired as myself (or some “prophetic minister”) when we’ve always been taught that they do not have the Spirit? It’s not as if these therapeutic “prophetic words” were moments of exception either. People all over the states have learned to successfully use the narrative approaches. What’s the difference between what “we do” versus what “they do”–practically speaking? Could it be that Narrative Therapy and Reflecting Teams have pioneered information for us that we didn’t yet have about how to integrate our new understandings in post-charismatic ministry? I would love to hear your thoughts.